You know the usual routine.
Usually at the beginning of the year, you write your goals down, number them in the order of importance, make them look pretty, close your notebook and never look at them again.
When will we stop doing this?
It’s important to be focused and driven every month, not just in January or the first 3 months of the year.
And that’s not to say that you have to have the same goals every month. Goals and priorities change, the same way your life changes in unexpected ways.
The most important thing is to you have goals – and plans in motion to achieve those goals.
But let’s cut to the chase. There are three excuses holding you back from success and they’re probably the reasons you haven’t achieved your goals in the last 6 months, and why you probably won’t achieve them before the end of this year.
I’ll share them with you.
1. You don’t know how to ask people for help.
You’re too prideful. You’d rather do everything on your own. Research, research, research. Try. Fail. Start over. And, over and over again. Instead of just asking someone who’s already done what you want to do.
If only you knew how much time you’re wasting. You think asking people for help is a sign of weakness, but really, your weakness is not asking the right people for help. And in some cases, you just don’t know how to ask. You’re asking the wrong way. But that’s another story for another time.
Ask the right people for help. Instead of researching free solutions that only give you a few pieces to the puzzle. Talk to people who have the wisdom and solutions you need to solve your problems. Whether that’s people who figured out a way to become debt-free before 30, couples who manage to travel around the world two times a year or even career strategists who know how to get the results you want in your career.
2. You’re too scared to invest in yourself.
It’s crazy that you’ll buy into the latest trends. You’ll pay whatever money necessary to feel better about yourself physically and emotionally. When it comes to getting a haircut, buying a gym membership, purchasing new clothes, we have no problem letting go of a few coins for those things.
But when was the last time you even purchased a book to learn more about how to invest in the priorities and goals you have for yourself? When was the last time you enrolled in a class or worked with a mentor that could give you strategic guidance?
Stop spending so much time wondering, “How do I know if this will work for me?” Do your research, follow your gut and invest. Trust that you’ll figure out a way to make whatever you learn work for you. See every tool of investment as a part of your journey of learning and growing into your better self.
3. You don’t know exactly which goals you need to accomplish (or you don’t have any goals).
And, it’s making you feel stuck. Either, you have too many goals you don’t even know where to start, or you don’t even know what your goals should be. Your goals are more like wishes, no real plans, no real progress.
Or worse, you’ve accepted that there’s nothing you can do about your situation so you might as well just go with the flow and not bother with any goals at all. But you know the saying, only dead fish go with the flow. And, well, you’re not a fish and you’re not dead…so I’ll just leave it at that.
Evaluate your current situation. Determine the one thing you want out of life right now. Write it down. Make it a goal. Then, create a plan. You don’t have to have a list of 10 things to make progress in your life. You should only focus on achieving 1 or 2 goals at a time. That’s how you stay focused and get real results.
All three may not apply to you, but even if one does, its holding you back. Get a grip and take control of your life. If you’re waiting for someone to hand you the opportunity you desire, and if you think you don’t have to put in any real work, that’s problem number 4.
No one cares about you or your future more than you care about you and your future. And, if you can think of someone who cares about you more than you care about yourself, that’s problem number 5. Add it to the list.
You are the only one who can change the course of your life. You want a better career? Work towards it. You want better relationships? Work towards it. You want a better savings account? Work towards it. Stop waiting for opportunities to fall in your lap or for people to hand you the things you desire.
Get clear on what you want. Ask for help. Invest in yourself.
And because I only share things I strive to live by, I would love your help. If you could take a few moments to take this survey and share your thoughts, I would love to hear from you.