I have bad days too.
I have days when I don’t know what the heck to say…
What the heck to do…
Or, what the heck I’m even doing…
No one, no matter how successful, no matter how eloquently spoken, no matter how brave, no matter how smart, no matter how lucky, no matter how happy, no matter how wealthy, no matter how fearless, has it all together.
No One Has it All Together.
Everyone is trying to figure life out.
20 year olds and 70 year olds alike.
But on the days when you’re having a bad day, do you compare yourself to others or do you draw inspiration from others?
I used to do the former – and some days I catch myself still doing it.
Hey, what can I say? I’m human.
But a few years back, when I hated my job, that’s when it was the worst.
I would get on LinkedIn at work and look at all the people who recently landed new jobs. I would browse through all the people who recently got promoted. And, I would hold back tears at my desk, feeling so sorry for myself.
Looking back, why did I do that? That’s self-inflicted pain at its finest.
If you needed ideas on how to throw the best pity party? I was the one to call.
But it solved nothing, it was just a recipe for more bad days to follow.
So, Now on My Bad Days…
I’ve learned to draw inspiration from others – and from myself.
On the days when I don’t know what to say…
What the heck to do…
Or, what the heck I’m doing…
I remember the days when I did.
I remind myself that one bad day does not equate a bad life.
I look to the people who seem much farther along than I am.
But instead of comparing myself, I ask instead:
What can I learn from them? What can I take and implement into my own life, with my own spin?
Success Leaves Clues
Someone I admire said the other day: Success leaves clues.
We should all have people who inspire us in our lives, even if those people have no idea we exist – thanks to social media.
I have people who inspire me to do better in my relationships, in my career, in my walk with Christ and in my finances.
Someone else I admire said: “It’s important to realize the only reason you admire someone is because there is something inside of you that can be developed into what you admire about them.”
So, if you’re having a bad day today, instead of looking at everyone else and thinking about all the ways you don’t match up, look for ways that you do.
Look for ways to be inspired to do more, look for ways to keep going, and remember the times that you have matched up in the past.
Don’t be so hard on yourself for not having it all together. Get out of your own head and give yourself space and permission to grow.
We all have bad days.
But on those days, will you throw yourself a pity party or will you find ways to be inspired?
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