“We’re looking for a new Account Executive, now that Jennifer is leaving us. If you know anyone who would be a great fit for this position, please email me directly.”
This was the mass email I received that crushed my hopes of getting the promotion I wanted so bad.
I was the great fit for the position.
I was the one completely capable of taking up where Jennifer left off.
I already worked there.
Why didn’t she just email me directly?
Why didn’t anyone consider me for the position?
I just knew that my time had finally come to level up.
I was embarrassed.
When I found out Jennifer was leaving, I just knew that my time had finally come to level up and get the position I had been desiring for the past 11 months.
I started mentally preparing for the opportunity, thinking about what I would say in the interview process and how I would demonstrate that I was the perfect person for this new opportunity.
But, they didn’t even consider me.
They looked over me.
To them, I wasn’t good enough.
I even scurried up the courage to inquire about the position. But, it just solidified how much they weren’t considering me.
Weeks later, they hired two new people.
And, I continued my duties as normal.
I MUST BE INSANE
Being looked over, sucks.
It feels like crap. That’s the best way to explain it.
Being looked over multiple times? You start to feel insane.
Looking back, I didn’t know how to confidently ask for the things that I knew I deserved.
I didn’t know how to flawlessly show my worth and my amazingness to others around me.
It’s no wonder they didn’t consider me.
If I’m honest, I didn’t fully believe in myself either. Not 100%.
I doubted myself and the things that I could do.
I didn’t know how to boldly demand the things that I deserved without coming off as too rude, too forceful or too boastful.
I doubted if I could even fill Jennifer’s shoes. I mean, everyone loved her and she was so good at what she did.
And you know what? The doubt. The lack of confidence. It all showed in my face, in my actions and in my performance.
I knew what I wanted. I knew that deep down, I deserved it. But I didn’t know how to demonstrate that to others. I didn’t know how to boldly demand the things that I deserved without coming off as too rude, too forceful or too boastful.
Not knowing how to do those things, held me back so much and for way too long.
MY COME TO JESUS MOMENT
Until, I finally felt like “I’m tired of this!”
That’s when I decided to do something about it.
I had a come to Jesus moment. I remembered that I am the only one in control of my career and my future and I realized that if I kept doing nothing to move the ladder in my favor then I would never reach the heights that I desired for myself.
So, I reassessed the things that I was doing wrong and I took time to figure out the things I needed to do better to discover my worth and showcase it to others.
Here are 4 Ways to Quickly Bounce Back After Getting Looked Over at Work:
Treat Yo’ Self
You still deserve it. You had a long day and the only person who’s in control of your happiness is you, my friend. So do something you love. Eat a bowl of ice cream. Watch your favorite TV show.
Arrange a night out of fun with your friends or your significant other. Life still goes on, so you might as well enjoy it.
Reassess Your Ways
As much as it easy to say in a breakup, “It’s not you, it me” – and not mean it, sometimes, it really is you. There may be certain things that you’re doing that are holding you back.
Take an in-depth look at your work ethic and the things you do and say around the office. Start paying attention to how others interact with you and how you interact with them.
Talk to Yourself
Seriously. Take a moment to ask yourself the hard questions. Why did you want that promotion anyway? What was it about that opportunity that excites you? Would that promotion really have satisfied you or did you just want it because you felt like you were supposed to have it? What do you really want out of your career?
When things like this happen to us, it sort of a wake up call. Use this opportunity to figure out what you really want to do next in your career so that you can create your own path of opportunities.
Get Your Mojo Back
Getting looked over or passed over for a promotion is not the end of the world. Even if you want to scream your head off at everyone, storm out of the office and never come back, you can’t. Rent still has to be paid and your weekend adventures still have to be funded.
So, find a way to inspire yourself again and keep going. The last thing you want to do is become bitter and rude to everyone at work. That only reinforces why they passed over you in the first place. Get your mojo back and aim to be twice as good as you once were before the whole fiasco happened.
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